Community of Love

One more in the line from Harishankar Parsai, this one originally in Hindi is named as "Prem Ki Biraadri" which can be translated to "Community of Love". Parsai was no doubt ahead of his time, through his words it seems he always tried to counter the illogical and orthodox ideas which leads to the separations specially in forms of Caste. But his style was unique, it wasn't primarily supposed to attack but simply show the illogical dimensions and then leave on the reader to think that too with sarcasm. He is known for making multiple mythological references in his stories too. this story is no exception.

So here is my translation, excuse me for the errors, I am not a professional just wanted to spread the words.

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His everything is pious. had a marriage in his own caste with bands and music. Wife didn't look at other male even in her seven lives. He got his son and daughter married with traditions. provided the dowry for the girl and took dowry for the son. Himself selected a boy and made him his daughter's husband. Himself selected a girl and made her the wife of his son.

   Everything of his is pious. he has property, have always time and passes time in the discussion about others defilement. Even then whatever time he is left with he picks out the white hairs from his mustache and wait for the lady who sells utensils.

  the face of purity needs the the dirty water of others impurity for cleanliness and glow. He always keeps the jug of water of others impurity. And as soon as he meets uses that water to show his sanctity. In last days he has already told the incident of 2 girls eloping, 3 women's abortion, 4 having inter-caste marriage and 2 married women's extra marital affairs.

  That day he came to me while picking his teeth. After lunch its really necessary to have the dessert of defilement discussion. helps in digestion. He started his dessert - "did you hear some mister's daughter eloped with some boy and they got married in Allahabad. What bad times has come". I know that he isn't actually sad with 'bad times', he is happy. more the bad times will come, happier he will get. Then they will feel proud about or will say that even in such bad times we are as good as earlier. Some people are very clever. They find the opportunity of personal pride in group degradation and feel free by saying their own degradation as group degradation.

 According to my own evil habit, I told - "What is there to worry about? In our country good and successful marriage has happened by getting the girl eloped. Lord Kishna eloped with Rukmini and Arjuna with Krishna's sister Subhadra. Krishna had supported it. If brother cooperate then it gets easier to elope with girl".

 He didn't know that I will slap him with Puranas. He got his composure and said - "Lord Krishna's story is different". I said - "Right, it is indeed different. If god gets the woman elope then it comes into prayer. If a common man does the same it becomes immoral. The girl you are talking about got out of her house by her own and married on her own. So what happened?"

He started saying - "you always talk opposite - Rules, traditions, culture, traditions are nothing? Do you know that girl and boy were of different caste".

I asked - "do they belong to human caste?"

He said - "Yes, what doubt is it in them being of human caste".

I said - "Then the marriage happened in the human caste. We have the history where great people have married out of human caste - for example Bheema married with Hidimba".

Such incidents are increasing, What's the reason that girl and boy have to run away to get married? 24-25 year old boys and girls have got the right to make the Indian government but not their life partner.

Everyday i hear about such incidents, two types of letter has got patented. the idea behind is this. One who has to marry by running away them as well as those who don't have to , both can use it.

Letter no. 1

Dear Father,

              I here have married Ramesh with Vedic traditions. We are good. Please don't worry. I hope that you and mother will forgive me.

                                                                                                                           Your daughter,
                                                                                                                             Sunita

Letter no. 2

Dear Ramesh,

             I cannot go against the wish of my parents. forgive me. You please get married and be happy. If you would be sad then I will never get peace. by heart I am yours. (After 4-5 years when you will come, then I will say to Pappu - "Son, say hi to uncle").

                                                                                                                            Yours,
                                                                                                                             Vinita

After that an interesting phenomenon starts, Parents says - "She has died for us, Now we will not even see her face". After some month when I go to them then that same girl brings the tea.

I asks them - "She has been dead for you?" And they says - "After all she is our daughter". Then I think one who is a daughter after all why she was not the daughter before all?

I am aware of parents feelings. It hurts when you see trust and tradition breaking. When Sherpa Tenzing came back from Mount Everest, someone asked him if there is Lord Shiva? then he replied no, he isn't there. A person with much pain told me that Tenzing should not have denied like that. I said - "He didn't find Lord Shiva there so he said he isn't there". The person said - "Still he should not have denied". I said - "But if he isn't there then......."

He said - "Even then he shouldn't have said 'no' ". I asked him - "Do you believe that lord Shiva is there?" He said - "We know that Lord Shiva is not there but have a belief in our heart that he is there and he is powerful and if some trouble will come on us, he will help us out".

False beliefs  also has a strong force. breaking of which makes sad instead of happy.

A person's daughter wanted to marry a boy of other caste. But her parents strong belief on the eternity of caste system came in the way. Boy was having a good income. But instead her parents married her to other boy of their own caste who not only had less income but also used to beat his wife. One day I told him that - I have heard that your daughter is in a bad condition. He beats her. The person didn't answer. but what would he have answered other than that - satisfaction is that she is getting beaten by own caste person.

After all what traditions these people talks about? What ideal they are following? Lord Rama is considered best male and Lady Sita best female. No better male-female can be imagined from these two neither our society has any marriage better than theirs. Tulsidas who created the best male says that in the garden after hearing the sound of Sita bracelet-bangle noise Lord Rama confesses to Lakshmana that it seems I am lost. Which means the bow of Rama's heart was broken at that very moment. pre-marital love happened and then married happened. Today what we are following by looking at it maybe it wasn't happened the way Tulsidas described. It would have been something like Rama would have asked Lakshamana whose sound is of this bracelets? Lakshamana would have said - It's King Janak daughter Sita. then Rama would have asked that if Janak belongs to our community? Lakshmana would have replied - Yes, King J.K. Singh is of our own community. Rama would have said - that's why my heart is vibrated. If he would have of some other community my heart won't have had any effect.

What do you will tell these boys and girls? Only that love has communities. There is one Hindu love, One Muslim love, One Brahman love, One thakur love, One Aggrawal love. If some Javed Aalam marries some Jayanti Guha, People make hue and cry into the country and sometime instigate riots also.

On these scenario going forward youngster's love scene would be something like this. Boy and girl meets and then talks start.
 Boy - are you a Brahman? and if you are then of which type of Brahman you are?
Girl - Why? what's the matter?
Boy- Nothing. Just I thought of loving you.
Girl- I am a khatri.
Boy- Then we can't be in love because I am a Brahman.

People says that after all, constant ideology and eternal tradition is also something. That's right but other than stupidity nothing is eternal tradition. Stupidity is immortal. It's gets alive again after dying multiple times.

On the other side I asks girls and boys that Vedas are here too and so is Vedic tradition, then why didn't you marry here and why you ran away to some other place?

They say - Here parents would have created troubles.

I understood. these youths will surely bring revolution but by maintaining status-quo.

The gentleman who used to gave me the news was saying that us seniors life long experiences also has some importance. I said - experience is important but more important is that what one learned from his experience. If someone in his 50-60 years experience only learned that to be a coward from everyone then this result of experience is doubtful. Someone else with the same amount of experience would have learned to not be afraid of anyone.

You are talking about 50-60 years. Earthworm in its million years of experience has learned that there should not be backbone.     

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(Let me know in comments if and how did you liked it, that's my only source of motivation :))

 

Start

Since morning my mood was off, it was even more tested with a friend's annoying request to which I didn't want to be part of.

Eventually I gave up and accepted the irritating request, it also ensured that the friendship has been damaged. I have come to believe that I am impossible to be friend with because...just say I am a dictator when it comes to myself. I am one of those guys who if ever get suspicious of being used or avoided or ignored or mocked will break everything in one go and move away. Once broken it's hard to rebuild. Ofcourse people try but let's face it I am not their priority, their life is their priority. Interestingly I am perfectly okay with it. I mean even though I break up internally i never think or believe that they owe me anything and if they ever apologize it only makes me feel guilty so I just secretly hope that they don't.

So today was it for that friend...well no more a friend I once believed he would be....So all in all the number of people I am at ease with is really minimum.

I don't like to be disturbed when I am thinking something, a wish which would never be fulfilled. I suddenly got a call from an unknown number. My first reaction to avoid it. I don't want a credit card or loan, neither I want to donate for the blinds, well not because money is dear to me , it is of course but because I don't trust the people who calls and ask for money. I don't want to be the idiot who thought he is donating money for good works and is laughed upon by few guys clinking their glasses of wine.

So I got tempted to cut the call but then I overcome that with the notion that it might be someone genuinely want to talk to me, so I picked the phone, thankfully. as I said "hello", some girl confirmed that it's me by calling my nick-name, it was my cousin. my paternal aunt daughter.

And then it stuck me. Why it's so weird? because just like friends I also don't give relatives any second chance. In fact so much of so that I consider relatives as human looking parasites. It has much to do with my personal experience. I have forced myself out of that web.

I had no contacts with any of my relatives since long and frankly speaking I really didn't want to with most of them. But this cousin of mine is special she is a link to my childhood. She is a younger sister and also perhaps my first friend to whom I really got along well. I always felt that we had a relation which would never be deteriorated with our falling families relations. We always have a mutual likeliness and respect mainly because our friendship was made on innocence.

However I quickly overcame my surprise and got along well with the flow. She was not hesitant which is an inborn trait in me...that's why maybe we get along well. maybe we inspire each other to somewhat degree. We were talking after 10 years and 10 years before I guess we talked after 5 years. So naturally we came really really long way......She matured as a girl and well I was born matured just got more and more arrogant with time.

Hence we talked for long understandably I was the listener for most part of it. But after long long time it felt really good to connect with my sister. Knowing myself I would have probably never contacted her out of the doubtfulness as if I should or not.

Now it seems like a new start where we would take forward with whatever our aging parents had in common. Probably with a more open mindset as we don't have issues to resolve between us and say have a more positive and open outlook.            

Stop it!!

I feel It's that time again, I am feeling down, sad and lonely. more internally than externally.

I guess I consciously try to avoid talking about myself, my insecurities but today I won't hold any bar. What's wrong with me? I guess I am born 20 years or so late. I don't gel very well with the current culture. I always feel left alone. Of course it's my behaviors which are the main reason.

I will talk about myself only, today 04-07-2013 05:02 AM I am still awake with a very stoic feelings. This feeling is not new to me but it still strike afresh and it's so very effective. What triggered this feeling? Well say news of someone getting seperated who never was really close to me but I really adored her throughout.

I never talked to her, never touched her. She barely knew about my existence in the world. And now the news that perhaps I will never see her again is so killing me. I don't know how to overcome it. and it disturbed me so much of so that even a lazy person like me is forced to write it down in hope that I may find some solace.

Loneliness is crushing and to most of us it's a big monster, but in my case it's even more scathing because I am the reason of my loneliness, my doubts, my stubbornness, my values and my ego. All in all I am an unbearable soul and it can well be said that I don't have the right to crib since I am the culprit.

When I look at my parents who are getting older and the thought that they will be gone one day shatters me so much that I desperately try to not to think on that line but it's inevitable. It's law of nature. Still I feel I would never be able to come to terms with the idea of my existence without them. They always complains that I don't call. Well I don't because a) I am a procrastinator and b) I really have nothing to talk to them.Still I feel my existence is nullified without my parents.

Next when I think about my friends. I was and am an introvert. I didn't make much friends. But I thought I made quality friends. They all have special places in my heart even though to a few I am not on a talking terms. I lost virtually all of them and they too got busy in their respective lives. I am not complaining I mean this is how it happens what I miss that had I been a bit more expressive and active maybe I would have maintained a better tie with my friends.

My Love life , a total disaster. had one relationship which I consider as a relationship and I really don't know how the other party thinks of it now maybe a fluke. My mistake was to think that I am acceptable even though my anti outgoing nature. Of course she made me believe that I am special and stuff but think about it doesn't all the guys in love feels similar way. And the biggest bonus for sure was to know the inevitable breakup, the inability to accept it and desperately trying to mend what is already broken. All my dreams and aspirations which I shared with her or which I made her a part of started haunting me. A metaphor would be when a person sees his own house being turned into debris and all he could do is stand and hope that something miraculous will happen and everything will be as what he planned.

I won't say I came out stronger on the other side but something like that. It made sure that I will be always avoiding any serious relationship. what I feel I gone through and the pessimist I am I can only hope that at the very best the same would be repeated. So I decided to take as it comes and avoid relationships, well honestly avoid opportunities. I still fantasize some pretty girl professing about her inner feelings for me and how most of my moves were so attractive and what I consider my weakness is actually cute and other embarrassing truth. These fantasies keeps me afloat, keeps my morale at level if not really high and also it passes the time really well.

But in the time like these when someone I had a huge crush on and to whom I never made a move because let's say I was too coward is silently going out of my life. Those fantasies are proven shallow, not a great feeling. Anyway there was nothing and there was nothing going to erupt, then why the hell I feel sad and why only me and why not those crushes? Those beautiful face which you can't ignore, you can't dislike I mean how can you, who hates a smiling baby? Similarly this girl was/is adorable, graceful, down to earth and married. A look at her relieves a lot of worldly worries. And I won't be able to see that again is really saddening.

In the counter argument one can say that I would find another girl to have a crush on. I don't think I will considering the circumstances around but let's say maybe I will but even though it doesn't lessens anything because the attachment I had on this girl will not be carried over to the new girl. This attachment will remain their unfulfilled and then a new attachment will start with the new person and then whole thing altogether again.

with this good girl I fantasized that I will tell her a beautiful story which I read in childhood and which I am sure she didn't ever hear and I felt we will have a bond and understanding and henceforth. Which story? I can't declare it's reserved for her or maybe someone like her.

Why are we cursed in this strange way, Why we have such a world where neither being a woman is easy nor being a man. It's not that we are incomplete without each other It's more of that we are not meant to be complete.

Anyway I feel she would always be there in my heart just like my parents and my friends are though none of them are destined to be with me always.

Do I regret that she will never come to know as how I felt about her? I am sure that I do. I feel like if message of my feeling would have been traversed to her even without any of her reciprocation I feel my feelings for her would have got more meaningfulness. But when I get above personal gratification and start looking into bigger picture maybe it's good that these feelings stayed with me than getting out in blue water and creating nuisances.

I am thinking if by chance she reads it , will she by some mystical intuition come to know that it's written about her? practically thinking she can't because I haven't left any hint. I think I am a dreamer and gets disturbed every time when my dream is broken. But It feels great in living in dream because we create a better world than the world we live in. We love better in dreams.

Don't know how to ends this, writing it down certainly helped though it didn't get rid of my frustrations, I guess it just synchronized them.

Let's hope that there comes an end to these cycles but that's almost like hoping for world peace.            

Current Affairs

I don't know why I chose the heading as current affairs maybe because people seems to be most concerned about current affairs. Current Affairs I think helps us getting all the emotions out of us on a very regular basis.

If we take some example, the killing of children by a US gunman without a solid motive brought the shock and grief reaction out of people, when Delhi chief minister told that Rs. 600 is enough for a family of five for a month it brought some surprise mixed with ridicule sort of emotions out of people. When gangnam style made the news people reacted with unusually refreshing sort of feelings.When Digivijay Singh or Rakhi Savant make any news people get what an asshole sort of feelings. Current affairs keep us occupied from our otherwise monotonous life.

Similarly this Delhi Rape case which happened quite recently it brought the feeling of disgust and anger in the people. In this era of facebook and twitter every emotions is shared in fact shout aloud by everyone. well everyone has the right to it and they are using it, it's a great thing to know. What is hurtful to me is volatility of these feelings. It's sad to know that all of these feelings are only till a new current affairs comes into picture. The old ones become 'old' and persisting it misses the enthusiasm of newness. This meaninglessness somehow makes me less reactive to any of these news.

These angers reflect in their facebook status and tea/coffee talk. and it's supported by likes and share. In fact I really get baffled that had it not been facebook I never could have known that some of my friends are so sensitive and sensible and had high values and for some I could have never known that they really are aware of what's going on in world. But thanks to Mark (Zuckerberg), other than making billions of money he sort of made us more aware about each other.

Some of the people's intensity of anger can be calculated by their idea of executing the criminals (read rapists) to name a few are cutting off their male organs, skin them out and beat to death, cut them into pieces and let the dogs eat the pieces, impaling them etc. (I didn't make any of them). I don't know. I won't shed tears if the culprits meet any of those fate, I mean they deserved it, Heinous is a subdued adjective of the crime they committed. But I have always believed that life is way harsher a punishment than death. no matter how gory the death is it will never meet the trauma a person can get when he is alive. slowly after slowly in loneliness you start regretting what you did because you have nothing else to do, no one else to talk, you only think of what you did, what you could have done and after some time you get at a point you break-up and you regret but you can't do anything about it. that helplessness is way more painful than any possible torture. Or maybe their exists some torture I am unaware of.

But as I said that's my view....maybe killing them in a barbaric way be an example for other (potential) rapists. Again I feel fear might be a deterrent but it's not a solution.

Also like many I don't buy the rubbishes that 'she was inviting for rape' through her dress or through the time she was out. These can't and would never qualifies even anything close to an excuse. How a person dresses is none of anyone's business well until and unless it's offending to some other caste, creed, religion etc. But funny thing is the logic. you can talk logic to people, but you can't talk logic to criminals, they are not logical. If someone is robbing you in the midnight you can't tell them that look no matter how much money I am carrying it's none of your business. And people who are logical enough would never rob you.

As for why rape happens, their is not one reason to pin-point. How I see is it could be a plain and simple remorseless crime which depicts the way society sees a woman, as a prize....I said society because male sees women as a prize and does women helps in getting rid of that prize mentality? Open question. A rape could be a revenge, some guy could be humiliated by some girl who doesn't give a shit about him. It also could be mindless power rampage....I think this is what happens in Delhi or elsewhere mostly young, arrogant brats getting together and trying to prove to each other how badass they are (initial half an hour of 'A Clockwork Orange') and taking pride in it.

Rape happens in all the societies, each societies try to fight it in different ways, some society try to get rid of this by their efficient law and order (mostly European and modern society), some have barbaric law (beheading and stoning to death). With India it isn't either.

Few years back someone asked then President Pervez Musharraf of Pakistan as why rape is happening in Pakistan at such a large scale, he replied that 'rape happens, it happens in India and France also'. I guess by bringing India in the example he sort of subdued the allegation because it would have been a real issue and humiliation had it not been happening in India, now they feel a little content. It's like feeling good that not only you are in deep shit, your rivals also are.

but that happened few years ago so it doesn't qualifies as current affairs, which actually is the topic. Once upon a time Anna Hazare was the current affair. I myself participated in the candle march, now people are bit bored of the agitation which Anna Hazare still time and again threatens the government with.

Few months back Aamir Khan's TV venture Satyameva Jayate was the current affair, the first episode about dowry was so scintillating that I had to feel some people's emotional or otherwise outburst when I told that people have got the mentality to see and feel the issue through a celebrity's spectacles so much of so that I sometime get confused is it the celebrity being addressed or the issue is being.

I learnt that when people are emotionally involved I should keep my views to myself. No one in particular like to know that he is following a known pattern and what he is excited about is momentary.

few days back I asked one of those guy so what was the topic addressed in the last episode of Satyameva Jayate? He replied he couldn't watch last few episodes. I don't think he got my point in asking the question.

Excuse me, I guess I am not that good person from heart, I am little stone heart-ed  one can say. But I believe in sincerity, I believe in patience, I don't believe in changing the world overnight. I believe in being an example than an allegation.

see you on next current affair.

29-12-2012 03:30 AM IST update -

And the concerned rape victim died. her death is tragic and shameful. Words fails you on these occasion. 

Comparisons..

A. Ever got that feelings (I'm sure you did) when you feel bad if something good is happening to someone you know or better you like just because it gives you a sense of "left out" and very quickly you hold yourself and gets a guilt feeling for thinking in that lane on the ethical ground. You make yourself understand that you should be happy that this good is happening to that person beyond yourself.

B. The corollary to above feeling is a more common feeling in which you feel good if something negative and bad happens to someone because it makes you feel that you are not the worst and hence not alone. It makes you feel good about yourself.

If you were not a brilliant student in school and just average and below average then try to remember the guy whom you were sure would get lesser marks than you. you didn't had ridicule or hate feeling toward him you just were content that he would be worse than you. In fact there is an unrealized likeliness for that very person.

I have come to ascertain that these feelings though considered menial and negative but is also a very natural feeling. We just try to evade/ignore/avoid/suppress this very feeling but in my opinion it's better to accept this feeling and understand our own insecurities behind this.

If you take A into consideration it's simply a residue of "left-out" feeling. As a natural tendency all we do is to compare our own life with that person's in a split of second and find a lull and void in our life whereas in that person's life it's a progress and something welcoming good happening. So we feel sad about ourselves which when not tackled grows to feeling bad in general and sometime a silent and dark wish that this good must not happen to that person.

Whereas B for me is little easy and in some way funny feeling when we feel good if something bad happens to someone we know and we like because in the very depth all we do is feel close to that person as he is down and simply like in the above paragraph we compare our life with that person's and find ourselves lucky/better/happening than the other person's that makes us feel better about ourselves which again is when not handled is feeling good at others' misery.

At home suppose you are writhing in pain or illness and asking to god as "Why me?" feeling that you have been eternally punished and feeling so low about your own being that you feel not much interest in your life as such. Slowly you get into depression and from window you see people laughing, talking, playing carelessly and you feel that you are cursed as such as you are not blessed for what others are blessed.

After someday you visit to a doctor and while waiting on for your number you start to have a look at other patients bit closely and you see some people in really such a pathetic condition that it sends a chill in your spine and you totally sort of forget yourself and even your pain. You subconsciously realize if your life is curse what are theirs'? You thank god that you are not punished like them, you feel your problem to be puny and nothing compared to some of them. Sometime you just wonder how they are even living their life? All in all while sitting their you tends to slowly feel good about yourself, you feel more positive.

This is not about you and me, I guess it is just about all of us, it's the tendency to comparing ourselves to others. Is there a solution to that? For me there is no solution as such if we don't take it as a problem anyhow. We should understand that our life is our own it could be dull from someone else as well as it will be brighter from some. If we can't help but compare we should be smart enough to not to value those comparisons.  We must understand that the inferiority and superiority is only relative(thanks to Einstein). The fact is our life our life and it is actually as dull as our view of it and as bright as our assumption of it.

I won't tell that when you feel low look for the good and blessings in your life because in that frame of mind it would be really hard. I believe how a thing looks is very much the way we look it. the world is beautiful or ugly believe it or not both are true. It's how we perceive things.

I won't preach to change your way of looking life all I can say that don't take it too seriously no matter how it looks that way it would help you being hopeful yet humble and not arrogant or depressed.
     

Our brains out of our hand.

I am inspired and charged. why?  read a few of my old post and suddenly it stuck me I have got to write, though i have lots of work today(it's Monday 2AM).

the question against me is always what to write...i am putting conscious effort not to write about politics, religion etc. But I will someday.

I want to write about something which I myself haven't noticed till now. I am not joking and it's too much evident for me that I write best when I am hurt, sad, angry or disappointed. Yes those are negative traits but they brings the best out of me without fail when it comes to writing. Now how can I say I write good in those scenario? How can I judge my own scripture? But if I can that's my judgement. It's more of an observation than judgement.

One thing I can write anytime is about girls, there is much to write, when I start thinking how or why I get attracted to me...i can go on writing. But I don't want to be a typecasted writer. :)

So moving on (wished I didn't have to move on from aforementioned topic).

Okay I got it....what to write about.

The source is some small videos i saw today. It was about logic and pattern. Nopes it's not as boring or maybe it is.

So here I start, Do you know our mind search for patterns amongst almost everything and i feel now that this somehow is the foundation of our being keen, enthusiast, sharp on the positive side and finicky, superstitious and racist on the negative side. Racist is a very strong word let's say racist without prejudice.

I feel it's beautiful how our brain is programmed to match things, synchronize things, look for meaning from anything and everything. Whenever we see a thing our brain first and foremost action is to search for if we have seen the same or similar things earlier not, this is a process well known recognizing. Oh that's my bag/shoes/towel/father feeling is the effect of that process.

I think when our brain in the process of finding that if we have already seen or felt the same or similar things and even after looking deeper in memory it is not sure then that's the stage of something similar to 'deja vu'. I have always believed that if you would try very hard to remember something which you have not seen then many a time your brain will subterfuge an image of what you want to see to soothe your desire to see. Try to force yourself to remember something which you have never seen before and soon you will start seeing false images in your brain.

It's scary to know that our brain cheats us many a times. We control our brain or our brain controls us? I am not sure but  much of ourselves is controlled by our brain. Yes what we call (desire of) heart is actually a part of brain itself we refer it our heart because heart movement varies much according to our desires for example if a very beautiful girl comes too near then our heart start beating faster and mind wants her so we conclude that "my heart wants her".

Not straying from the topic therefore (my heart want to talk about her). Our mind takes all possible evidence and tries to make sense out of that. Think of a suspense thriller and watched the suspense was the part your brain couldn't guess and that's why it was thrilled when the suspense uncovered and if you guessed the suspense agree with me that it wasn't really a thriller since you knew things beforehand.

We all know that magic is nothing but trickery, presentation and science synchronized together to amuse us. I remember one magician interview in which he said that whenever viewer watches magic shows their brains are programmed in such a way that they start having endless guessing in their mind as how the magic was possible it somehow gives the magician to pull off his trick because viewers minds are already in the process of searching and deciphering the trick. In that deep process obvious reasons are ignored and that's what magician encash upon.

How you felt when you got to know the trick behind some magic, you feels something in between "how cheap" and disappointed. you feel cheap because your brain was applying some strong logic and assumption but reality was much more simpler and same is the reason for being disappointed.

Cons are similar to magician only with evil intentions, it's not the cons that con us but it's our brain that fails you and perhaps that's why being conned is much more annoying and frustrating than being robbed.

Should I write more?

have you ever seen in clouds and searched for known figures and shapes? I bet you even found a few. Yes brain at work.

On the hindsight it looks a very beneficial and positive trait that our brain search for patterns and logic and reason in everything but it can and have mostly bad impact also. Here is how? (It's very important)

Since our brain always makes logic with available data we comes with our own theories. Have you ever heard people talking how their race/religion/clan/caste/language/literature is getting diminished/attacked/insulted ? their brain has come up with this theories based on a few incident. those few incidents had the same pattern and that's how brain comes out with those notion so much of so that it ignores the counter incidents. Now these people with such tendencies and notions becomes sort of separatist, hardliners, fundamentalist, haters etc. It gives rise to racist and hatred tendencies.

Think over it.(and don't try to find patterns in it, most likely your brain will come out with a pseudo-theory)

We as humans are better than our brains. Control it, force it for positive development. Never fall pray to your own brain. It would alienate you.

Next, let me think some better way to control our mind.

  

Pets

Alright! pets.

Do you like or own pets?? Why?

Does your pets make you feel like a better person? It makes you feel needed or wanted?

Today I am going to look into the psychology of having pets but foremost a disclaimer of sort.

I am against cruelty, animal or human doesn't matter and no matter what my view is people will continue what they are doing, good or bad. Hence at the end of the day and the beginning of the night it hardly matters fellas. so don't get charged up if anything goes against your ideology.

All sort of pets do we have, I think hardly any animals are there which some people don't have pets. Why only animals many people have humans as pet well in many sense literally.

Dogs, cats and horses are the commonest of all. No doubt they look good and it feels real good in touching them. People who don't like to be touched by or to touch fellow human beings love to sleep with their pets. I wonder why?

Are animals harmless compared to humans? Well up to some extent it's very much true. But that's because humans are intelligent in comparison to Animals. There shouldn't be any doubt because had it been the other way, the vice-versa we would have been some animal's pet, that too if we would have survived their hunting us.

So in a way they cherish the lack of intelligence in their pets, however they always boasts about how intelligent their pets are since it brings the newspaper from front door to breakfast table every morning. It gives us great pleasure to find out that our pets are smarter than what is supposed to be the normal standard of intelligence of that in particular species.

One more reason people go for pets because in the relationship with their pets they don't have to face demands. What an animal would ask from you? Damn! it doesn't have a language to convey. All you see in their eyes are love and respect mostly because they have little or no idea about they are being slaved.

We so very much cry for freedom everyday, children want more freedom from parents, Youngster wants more freedom from system. We all wants more freedom for being self-reliant. If someone takes us as a pet, no matter how good he/she behaves or treats we still want to get free.

Then why not animals? because we provide them food and they are too lazy to fight and compete for food in outside world. They sleep whole day and waits for you because you provide them food and you provide them care. Not because you care for them but because you have time you don't know what to do, you are
somewhat lonely and perhaps you have extra money than what you really needs.

Somewhere read that for a dog his or her master is God. But according to me it's an insult to be considered God by animals. They consider you god because you provide them with food and you shower your otherwise useless love on that animal. What if you continue showering the love as you do but stop providing the food, the daily meal? I wonder if the relation between you and your pet would be as cordial. According to me rather unlikely. So what's it? a give and take relationship between you and your pets?

Sometime I feel that a pet and his master subconsciously yet continuously and mutually fool each other. Try to give it a thought.  

Cards

This has been long.......yet.

Alright today somehow I know what I am going to talk about....so here it is.....I was just watching a movie and suddenly got this idea.

We have cards, greeting cards.......fashion of exchanging cards I feel is diminishing slowly. The reason might be multiple. keep thinking and new will be coming.

But what I think just like there are greeting cards, there should be something like ungreeting cards.......cards which convey the feelings which are genuine and not pleasant. Love, Compassion, Praise etc. are superb feelings and there are cards for them but I guess similarly hate, disgust, disappointment and apathy too are feelings which we can't evade and feels some reason to be conveyed to other beings, specially those who are related to that.

Putting(Read Starting) mildly there should be a card like "Leave me alone" card. I so very much feel the need of this card..... Suppose someone is playing adhesive to you, someone is too impressed with you, someone bugs you every now and then for whatever fucking reason, Someone keep referring you to others, someone keep planning events where he/she falls in the same group/way. You understand all that and genuinely want to convey to that person or group of person that.....just Leave me alone.

Yes, you can say it. but then you have to bear the sudden feedback and reactions which you have no reason to bear. you can text him, mail him or other means......but then cards are more classy and in these scenarios presumably effective too.

Dear whoever,

I really am flattered with your addiction with myself, but you must understand that its annoying sometimes when someone takes you as their pet or private property or want to own you or want to get owned by you, Of course it's not the case with you and to make sure that it does not become so............Leave me alone.

Distantly yours,
me

I think this would do. It would convey the message with the least amount of offense. Also it would make them more aware about how people are taking their behavior.

Let's talk about some other types

Get a life card -  This card should be provided to the people who suggests some perverse or disgusting actions habitually or intentionally. It would also suit on people who try to demean others and feels the essence of superiority however from others' point of view they are total jackass while doing so.

I don't like you card - This card I guess should be used very carefully and only when apt. There are people whom we genuinely don't like. They don't mean any harm to us. They are just normal people but say you don't like them. Their way of talking/laughing/working/dressing/eating etc. This card must be used with least malafide intentions.

Fuck yourself card - This would be close second in term of potency and feelings to the "I Love You" card I suppose. As we all gets this feeling more often to various person but we digest it and hence puts a burden on our subconscious. This card if exchanged between couples can be called "Break-up card" because that would be evident. However it would save you a little drama if its in the form of card and isn't said directly. Caution : This card should be avoided as much as possible in professional and business world because when the scene changes which does changes in professional world quite often, someone might return the card to you and that won't be pleasant.

Eden's Apple

In addition to the earlier post Intellectual this is one more short story from Harishankar Parsai.......this is bit shorter and much lighter.......only a pint of sarcasm in it, still witty and thoughtful. The context also is known to most.

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Millions of year ago God, who is also known by many different names, started a garden of Apples. This garden was called 'Eden Garden'. There used to be good apple crop, selling of which produced good money for God. About Eden garden God has fueled strange rumors which made the garden mysterious. He spread the rumor that in garden at apple trees there lives a poisonous and large snake. Due to this very rumor the children from the secondary school nearby didn't use to get inside the garden neither their teacher used to tell them to bring apples.

One year due to some unknown reason there was a bad apple crop. Though the quantity of apples were much but all of them were tasteless and rotten from inside. God tried a lot but no one really got ready to buy them. A few customer who took it returned in an hour or so with complains. God was really worried. All the crops were useless and he didn't has the hope of selling them.

One day 'Eve' came to God. Eve was a supremely beautiful lady. She was intelligent too. This rarely happens. It was the same Eve who started the 'Eve's weekly' magazine which is still circulating. In east so old magazine is only the one started by Lord Shiva 'Shankar weekly'.

The whole locality was attracted to Eve. Just to watch her there used to be a crowd. Eve asked God the reason of his worry. God replied "Whole crop of apple has gone bad. No one is ready to take them even for free".

Eve said "I can make all of your apple sell". God smiled and said "You shouldn't be so proud of your beauty. It stays for few days only. Its momentary".

Eve said "Your philosophy won't work, the problem is to how to sell these useless apples which would be rotten in a week. I can do this miracle".

God said "Alright, If you can do then try".

Eve plucked an apple and took that to a photographer. She smilingly kept the apple in her mouth and got photo shot. God made the block of that picture. Eve went to a newspaper agency and published an advertisement in which Eve is smilingly eating the apple and beneath that it's written - "beautiful Eve says - I always eat apples from Eden garden. They are tasty and effective. My skin has become soft and shiny by eating this"

From the next day the advertisement started coming in the newspaper. The bill of the same advertisement were stick on walls everywhere.

The first victim of the advertisement was 'Adam'. Adam was the hero of the locality. He was crazy for Eve. he came close to Eve and asked "These apples are really so good? You like them?"

Eve sarcastically replied "Yes, am I lying?"

Adam said "then I too would eat, Let's buy an apple and we eat that together".

Adam bought an apple; half he gave to Eve, half he ate himself. This incident was known to everyone.

The effect of advertisement started. men anyway were ready to accept Eve's request. When women looked at the advertisement initially due to jealousy they said "Okay, the bitch got her picture in newspaper too!" then looked at the last sentence - "My skin has become soft and shiny by eating this" so called their husbands "Listen!! I am telling that while returning from office bring one kilo of Eden apple".

After a month Eve returned to God and said "Tell me, God".

God said "All sold out!".


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Sophistication.

The world is getting sophisticated. Sophistication it seems is the new fashion..many years earlier it used to be simplicity.

People earlier used to prove(read project) themselves simple. They took the pride in being simple. Simplicity is somehow in many sense is connected to natural......well it seems so. On that line Sophistication seems to be linked with artificial.

I mean look around yourself......Nature always represents its process as simple......but the artificial definition we try to bring out is sophisticated. The simpler the process the more sophisticated is the reason behind it. Example would be like it's very simple and rather natural that a guy falls in love with a girl or vice-versa. Now why?? and the reasons could be mindlessly sophisticated....it would travel and include all the fields. The answer to it will take you into deep biology, strange chemistry, little philosophy, somewhat history, without doubt sociology and much much more and when you try to synchronize all that its shitty business.

A rather simple thing became complex for no good reason. Human have tendencies to search for answer and this in many ways and without doubt is the core reason for our progress. It has been a boon to humanity in terms of science, discovery and thousand more fields.

But do we really need to make it a habit to sophisticate things? Can't we just make things simple just as it is? I mean do we really need to find the reason behind every mundane things? Let's even not mundane things then harmless things. Does analyzing, scrutinizing and hence judging has gone deep into our bones? So much of so that we started applying it on humans.

Every lowly asshole starts analyzing some great personality with whatever bits and pieces of knowledge he/she has got. Every other day I heard someone demeaning Gandhi or other Greats, questioning his tactics, way of working. People who don't have the courage to stand against some visible malfunctioning of Government system. People who would silently pass with the none-of-my-business capsules if there is some wrong-doing is happening right in front of himself, they judge historical greats on moral and ethical ground. they question the character of people who with their strength did what others found impossible. Somehow I feel a critics thrives on the hard work of others....Alright the previous line is taken from the animation movie "Ratatouille"........Still it makes much sense to me.

People are so quick to blame and demands the sacking of cricketer, footballer or players. Whereas it's quite obvious that those people wont be able to execute what he expects the players to execute. He is relieved subconsciously that no one is going to ask or question about his/her personal life. He has the blessing that no one is interested in him. Hence he feels quite free to use his index and sometime middle finger on someone who don't have the luxury of not being famous.

Actually we strayed.....the topic was about sophistication as the new "in" things. Everyone seems to be toiling hard enough to prove his character and/or thinking sophisticates. People follow a sophisticated lifestyle. They behave complex on purpose it seems because it purports him/her as a unique mystery. It makes him/her interesting. Deep down he/she is barren and vacant and too ordinary. The outside effort is more to balance this inner void. Does he succeed? yes he does. Now how he succeed? that's an interesting question, answer I have already provided. Can you guess??

(Take your time here with slow deep breathes)

because people are there to analyze and scrutinize him. We have made a habit of analyzing other person. those analysis are based on mostly external behavior which the person has already transformed into sophistication and the analyzer since is analyzing things which is on purpose sophisticized, is most likely to short on logic to define the person's personality and that is how he finds him interesting, because he wasn't able to simplify the behavior. If his behavior would have been rather simple, the analyzer would have well categorized him in his pre-defined and self-defined categories and have not worried much about him.

So is it good or bad? When someone asks me if it is good or bad my obvious question is - if it's bad, can you stop it?? If not then it doesn't matter if it's good or bad. why to bother about good or bad?

Is there any alternatives? well I first thought that if you connect to the person and then analyze him/her your analysis will have better penetration and you would be able to see if the sophistication is genuine (it's not mostly) or It is worn. But its ideal coz if the person has put a sophisticated interface for himself it is unlikely that he would let you connect to his inner integrity easily. He fear that if you come to know his inside lull and very ordinary personality, he would be exposed. Which he won't want.

*Started feeling sleepy*

 I hate to bring out a conclusion on this matter. I just wanted to represent a view. And I guess the motive has been fulfilled.

You can tell in comments how sophisticated you are or how simple you are or do you put an effort to be something which you aren't truly inside?